A Glimpse into My Journey of Service

I was born in the home depicted in picture #2, surrounded by bookshelves. However, during my upbringing from 1966 to 1976, this environment of my parents homes was overshadowed by the turmoil of the mobs' revolution. All my father's property was sealed during my growing up.

In the photo taken back then when my husband and I were visiting my parents home, I’m holding our newborn baby, with my sister sitting beside me. My parents-in-law have honored her as the "Godmother of their grandchildren" through my husband and me.

On either side of us in that same picture #2 sat or one half-stood two others: one was ELouis' Middle-East colleague dispatched to help the far region;  the other was that colleague's daughter who as a mother had to leave the daughter behind when involuntarily dispatched as contracted expert in 1980s to assist in the desert region. During a visit to her daughter, she learned that my husband and I were in town visiting my parents with our newborn. She came to see me, bringing her daughter along, and shared the heart-wrenching story of Elouis’ personal life.

(* During the tumultuous years of the communist mobs Revolution from 1966 to 1976, I often went to schools with two close friends. We shared something in common, which was,  we all were born with full parents but we were deprived of full or partial parenting in that brutal era. A couple of semesters later in the early 1970s, a Chinese Muslim family moved into my parents' neighborhood. The father was a member of a volunteer armed civilian group from the slum region outside the old city gates. LiLi''s father moved into my parents neighborhood after forcing some middle class family in the community out of their home. 

Our school principal advised me who was the monitor of my class to look out for his daughter, LiLi, paying more attention to her, as we think the violence was NOT done by her who was just a child like the rest of my girl friends. My best friends Elouis and Hon, and I decided to include her in our daily activities, going back & forth to attending school and doing homework and playing after school together, we indeed had lots of fun together.

Years later in life, I—whose parents were exiled being called "those conservative stinky intellectuals" into labor camp and my mother had to do lots of jobs to feed us children — successfully passed the exams to gain admission to a four-year university. My friend Elouis, raised by a divorced mother due to the Korean War, also passed his exams to attend a two-year college. Hon, whose parents were sent to assist impoverished regions in Sichuan, was brought up by a spinster aunt who teaches deaf, blind, and mute students, after the exams, got enrolled in a vocational school. Additionally, LiLi benefited from the equivalent of what American called 'the affirmative action'"  for the minorities which lowered the score requirement for minorities by over 30 points less,  allowing her to be admitted to a vocational school as well.

Motivated by friends of my father's aspirations, I later passed the necessary exams to be officially assigned as a university faculty member.

ELouis worked hard to be promoted serving as a trading counselor, later dispatched to the middle East region focusing on support trade. Hon worked as an accountant. LiLi chose to specialize in agricultural accounting. LiLi also liked to be an accountant, but in a different field. LiLi chose to be an accountant for crops, born in the slum-region out of the old city gates area, she was the first to understand the importance of food for the stomach. Whereas we city slicks work hard to be accomplished in academics and then following our idealist parents by helping the people in harsh regions, voluntarily or involuntarily 😳🤷🤓

My professors frequently showcased pride in my achievements, pointing out that I outperformed President Reagan in my academic tests scores. This distinction opened the doors to over 40 graduate school acceptances across the United States. During my pursuit of gratitude schools, not only did I perform excellently in changing urban New York public school education, I also met my alumni friend (later became my husband) engaging in initiatives aimed at averting potential global conflicts, including World War III, with older generation American Patriots. Whereas, my children are also passionately involved with their father's mission of helping the underprivileged communities in America as well as Africa and other regions.

In picture number 4, my husband and I took our newborn to visit my parents back then. At the same time, my high school friends were paying me a visit. The woman wearing glasses is Hon (as mentioned above), who was raised by her spinster aunt while her father, an engineer, was dispatched to the impoverished region of Sichuan during the tumultuous period of the Cultural Revolution from 1966 to 1976. Next to Hon is the mother of another high school friend, Elouis. Elouis successfully passed her exams to attend a two-year college, after which she was sent by government. to work in the Middle East region. Due to cultural differences, she never married. Her father, like many others, was sent to Korea by Mao to assist in the Korean War. Tragically, Mao lost his son during the Korean war in conflict with America in the 1959s, and Elouis's father later married a Korean nurse, resulting in a divorce from Elouis's mother with baby ELouis. As a result, Elouis was raised by her mother, while her older sister lived with their father and his second wife a Korean nurse.

ELouis grew up harboring resentment towards her father for taking two wives. Later, she found herself reconciled to forgive her father after her private experience in a tumultuous relationship with an Arab boyfriend, who was out of shock to be revealed to have a household filled with kids with several wives. This drove her to flee the house she was visiting and ran and ran through the desert. She eventually came to forgiving terms with her father. However, she struggled to find stability in the harsh environment she was sent to work in the Middle East, remained single and never dated any more ...

During this time, her mother frequently visited mine, asking my mother for a comfortingly friendly presence amidst the chaos of her own tragic personal life due to war and her daughter's lonely personal life in peace time due to cultural differences...

Before my busy college study years, my high school girl friends and I often gathered at my parents' house to do our homework together. We would also enjoy singing classics like "Moon River" and " Blanka" etc. and I remember "Que Sera, Sera" was ELouis' favorite song that she liked to have us play the "moms" to answer  the little child's question at ELouis’ mom's place.

Then my big brother in late 1970s during exile as children of anti-injustice-communist intellectual father, invented "the engineering Technology of Large scale planking" making peace to use his invented technology to build 14 storey housing in the slums of Honkou district where LiLi's father moved into my exiled parents neighborhood by force... So no more minorities using black market weapons to disturb the innocent civilian living ...

In the late 1970s, my older brother, an exiled child of an anti-communist intellectual father, and therefore back & knee got broken, invented the "Engineering Technology of Large Scale Planking." His innovative approach was instrumental in constructing 14-story housing units in the slums of the Hongkou district out of the old city region at our own ancestors money, where LiLi's father had forcibly relocated to my parents' neighborhood. My big brother's initiative significantly reduced the brutal reliance on black market weapons, and fostering a safer environment for innocent civilians, and also opened some new zoning for slum-residents who have better living conditions.

When LiLi didn't pass her college entrance exams, she still got to be a successful accountant. She could also date early unlike the ones who passed exams to be studying in 4 years colleges in the years of 1979 and 1980, but that rule was abolished in 1983-84. After several failed relationships, often due to cultural differences. Ultimately, she married into a family with additional housing better than the space her father had to, so pathetically compromise his humanity, to use a gun 😳 to throw a middle class family out to obtain a room by sharing the booty with fellow gunners of the whole unit.

Lili and her husband have a lovely daughter, under the complexities of the one-child policy promoted to Mao by Mogalian-Muslim-Chinese population expert Ying chu Ma since 1950 but was  rejected by Mao due to loss of population caused by decades of war till after the mid-1970s.

LiLi confessed that ELouis life-encounter as a dispatched counselor in the mid east region, with guys chasing her but having households of lots of wives, should really be her fate if hundreds of years ago. Reflecting the "twist of fate", Lili expressed on how different her life might have been if her Arabic ancestors hadn't journeyed to China centuries ago following the trade-trail to China

Unfortunately, I lost touch with everyone for decades while dedicating my time to helping the American communities. Still, those old photographs bring back smiles and cherished memories.